SEX. Let's talk about it.
As I've grown older, I've discovered that a lot of the teachings I learned about sex and the realities of it were not in line with each other. My school, my church, my parents, my TV, my internet, and my culture were all telling me the who/what/when/where/why/how questions about sex, but once I actually had sexual experiences, I become confused. Everything did not add up.
My church taught me that “sex is the worst thing you can do (before marriage)!” and that “sex is wonderful (after marriage)!” Those sentiments taught me to feel guilty about ANYTHING resembling sexual feelings before marriage, and that guilt unfortunately stayed with me for a bit after marriage. Pornography taught me a fantastical version of sex that is both idolized and less than the actual thing. From all resources, though there was talk of “consent” I didn't really understand what that meant. For the most part, it seemed that sex was taught to me as something that one does while another person is there, rather than two people doing something together. It's a subtle distinction, yet one that makes all the difference.
On January 19 2018, we're releasing a new album called “Uncomfortably Unsure”. It's a non-sexy album about sex. These are not songs to put you in the mood. These are songs that try to unpack and examine the shortcomings one has surrounding sex in all it's definitions. I was told that it's not polite or proper to talk about these things. Well I want to talk about them.
This album has been 2-3 years in the making, yet it dovetails perfectly with the global conversation we all seem to be having right now: from the sexual allegations we hear daily about politicians and celebrities, to the growing use of Viagra among those under 25 years old, to the increasing polarization of the word “feminism”, to the public rise of non-gender-conforming individuals, etc. It is clear that as a society, we have some kind of sexual misunderstanding amongst each other. This new album is our small contribution to this continuing cultural conversation.
“Uncomfortably Unsure” will be out on Friday Jan. 19 2018. Below is the beautiful cover art that Elizabeth made. You can hear the first single, see the full tracklisting, and preorder the album on our bandcamp page here:
It's sort of a different kind of album, with long titles, short songs, and (to me anyway) a weird feeling of adventure. We are incredibly proud of it, and hope you love it.